For the past two days I’ve been
stymied about what to write for today’s posting. Then this morning, as I sat at
the computer, organizing my array of blogs as bookmarks, an idea came: Why not
share something about my manuscript for a novel about four ex-nuns?
An
old adage is to “write what you know.” And I do know something about nuns and
ex-nuns. Also, I know something about the thought process that can lead to
suicide because in the 1970s I’d struggled with those thoughts.
The
story developed from my wanting to explore what a suicide does to the family
and friends left bereft and angered by the self-inflicted death of a loved one.
As the main characters, I envisioned four ex-nuns, the mother of one of them,
and a priest.
Why
ex-nuns?
Because most people expect them to be
women of deep faith.
But
what if the suicide of a beloved adult child of one of them tests that faith?
What will moor them? How will the death affect their relationships? Who else,
beyond the four of them, will be affected by death and by the changes within
these women and their history with one another?
I
began working on this manuscript in the late 1980s, after I became a freelance
line editor, copy editor, and curriculum developer. In 1984, at the age of
forty-eight, I’d resigned from a well-paying and demanding position as the
manager of the curriculum department at Winston Press. One of the reasons for
my resignation was that I wanted time to write my own manuscripts.
My
freelance days were full-time busy with projects and with teaching evening
courses on professional editing at several different junior colleges and
universities in the metropolitan area of the Twin Cities. Nevertheless, each
morning after breakfast, I’d enter my home office and write creatively for an
hour. That led to two romances that never saw publication because, after all,
what did I know of romance?
Then
the idea for the ex-nun story came to me. I wrote the first draft in a year,
but laid it aside because the writing seemed uninspired. However, the
manuscript taught me a great deal about writing. Its most important lesson was
to let characters take hold of a story and direct it to its end.
I
hadn’t known that could happen until one morning when I came, unwillingly, to my Apple
computer to write a new chapter with a new voice. Each chapter of
the draft was in the voice of one of the ex-nuns. Three of them had already
moved the story forward, but the fourth—Ruth—had been given no chapters of her
own. The truth was that I’d developed an antipathy toward her because of what
the other characters had said about her.
Here's what happened that day:
Reluctantly,
I began Ruth’s chapter with her arrival at the protagonist’s home. An awkward
conversation ensued between them. Ruth started to say something, and I suddenly realized what
she was going to reveal. Her whole background—the story of a childhood tyrannized
by abuse—flooded my mind.
I
heard myself say, out loud, “Ruth, you’re not going to tell her that are you?
Please, Ruth, you’ll be hurt!”
I
began to cry at the pain and agony Ruth had endured. Tears trickled down my face
and fell on my clenched hands.
I
felt the overwhelming disappointment of her life—a life that explained her barbed
replies to those who tried to get too close to her.
Then
Ruth’s resolve coursed through me.
I
lifted my hands to the keyboard, and her story unfolded with its own grace and graciousness.
My
tears accompanied it.
When
Ruth ended her story, she, too, cried.
And
I?
I
embraced her.
Truly, to understand all is to forgive all.
From then on I counted Ruth
as an aspect of myself that I now understood and loved.
Writing,
as you can see, is healing.











